There’s nothing like a dose of dryness “down there” to kill the mood, the spark and sometimes even your self-esteem. Itching, burning, discomfort during sex, or bleeding… it’s hardly the vibe most of us are going for.
Whether you're nearing menopause or nowhere near it, vaginal dryness can feel like a slow unraveling of connection, confidence, even joy. But hear this loud and clear: just because it’s common, doesn’t mean you have to put up with it.
Let’s unpack what’s really going on and what you can do about it (naturally, of course).
So, What Is Vaginal Dryness?
It’s more than just “dry”. Vaginal dryness is an umbrella term for a range of symptoms like irritation, burning, fragility, bleeding, low libido and discomfort or pain during sex. And let's not forget the emotional impact, detachment, frustration, and feeling unlike yourself.
It’s often linked to drops in oestrogen or testosterone (hello, menopause or postpartum), but that’s not the full story. Hormonal birth control, breastfeeding, certain medications, stress, trauma, sleep deprivation, and even your shower gel can all wreak havoc on your natural lubrication.
The skin in your vaginal area is incredibly sensitive. Add in a few scented wipes or synthetic-laden “intimate washes” and it’s a recipe for inflammation and discomfort, not intimacy.
4 Natural Ways to Support Vaginal Moisture and Comfort
1. Ditch the Chemicals
Start with what you don’t use. Say goodbye to anything with synthetic fragrance, artificial colours, harsh surfactants, or mystery ingredients. Your vagina is self-cleaning - let’s not complicate things.
Use only gentle, non-toxic products on and around the vulva. Think fewer bubbles, more botanical bliss.
2. Support Your Hormones (They’re Running the Show)
Whether you're peri-, post-, or nowhere near menopause, hormonal fluctuations are a key driver of vaginal dryness. Balancing your hormones can make a world of difference, not just “down there”, but in your skin, sleep, mood and energy too.
You might consider herbs like shatavari, vitex, maca, or wild yam, and nutrients such as omega-3s, vitamin E and magnesium. The right combination depends on your unique body, so it’s worth consulting a herbalist (we happen to know one!).
3. Nourish the Emotional Body
This part is often overlooked, but it matters. Feeling pain or disconnection during intimacy can affect your self-image and relationships deeply. Whether you’ve experienced trauma, grief, a shift in your sense of femininity, or simply feel "not yourself", your emotional body needs just as much tending.
Try journalling, conscious breathing, somatic therapy, or gentle pelvic massage. Reconnect with your body, on your terms.
4. Use Natural Lubricants (And You Might Already Have Them in Your Kitchen)
For immediate relief, turn to nature’s pantry.
- Coconut Oil – Naturally antimicrobial, soothing and deeply hydrating. A favourite of ours.
- Ghee – Especially nourishing if you're feeling thin, fragile, or cold "down there".
- Aloe Vera Gel – Great if you’re prone to irritation or inflammation. Use organic and pure (watch for added chemicals).
You can also boost these bases with a touch of essential oil magic. Think lavender, chamomile, rose, or frankincense, all known for soothing, repairing and restoring skin and spirit alike. Scroll down for our DIY blend.
Final Thought
Your body is wise. She speaks through discomfort, through dryness, through the things we’ve been taught to ignore. Vaginal dryness isn’t the end of your sensual story, it might just be the invitation to write a new one, filled with deeper connection, conscious care, and a little plant-powered magic. You’ve got this!
